Trying To Conceive? The Best Advice

Did you know that today is National baby making day? The truth is, many couples decide around new year that they are ready to start a family or add to their existing one, and some even set it as a goal or resolution for the new year ahead. So with fresh motivation today is one of the most popular days to conceive and technically get pregnant. 

However, whether you are reading this in January or any other time of the year, trying to conceive is not as easy as some people expect it to be. Sure there are couples out there who are lucky to catch fairly early on in their TTC journey. Other couples take longer for a variety of reasons. Some need some extra help. The trying to conceive journey is not plain sailing, and at times, it can end in heartbreak. But, to keep things positive, it is an extremely exciting time in your relationship. To decide to start or add to your family can feel like you are about to embark on the next chapter of your life. So are there any things that you can do to help the journey along? 

While there are no guarantees that these things are sure fire ways to get pregnant, getting yourself in the best possible shape or in the best position doesn’t cause any harm. So here are some of the best tips to help you on your TTC journey. 

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Eating the right foods

Yes, believe it or not, your diet can play a big part. There are foods that are worth adding to your diet or increasing your consumption of if you are serious about conceiving and getting pregnant. These foods include leafy greens which are spinach, broccoli and Kale. Other foods include oranges and strawberries and beans and nuts. These foods in particular contain folic aside which is a great vitamin to have as part of your diet and recommended throughout the first twelve weeks of pregnancy. Other foods to indulge on is things containing calcium, such as milk, yoghurt and cheese. Also iron is important which you can find in lean meats. Going for a balanced approach is key, but ensuring you are getting all of the essential nutrients to nourish your body is an excellent platform to begin with. 

Exercise or being more active

While you may not want to start some gruelling exercise regime, getting more active can be a great way to naturally get your body in shape for pregnancy. It includes things like walking more or maybe staring light exercise classes or taking up running. Funnily enough, in 2019 I had started the couch to 5k with some friends and happened to be in really good shape. Something I had not prioritised for a long time. low and behold, 2019 was the year that I got pregnant again but I was also able to get beyond 12 weeks so there may be something in it. If you just want to increase your activity focus on how many steps you take each day. This can be a great starting point. 

Get to know your cycles

I know this one can be tricky, but getting to know your period and menstrual cycle can be a great way to indicate the days you are ovulating and more likely to conceive. I never realised there was a window of opportunity before my husband and I began trying for a baby a few years ago. Our son was a surprise so we had never had to do that before. I used a few different applications on my phone, some of which are free, and it can give you a great indication of your fertile window. Also you can now do ovulation tests at home which can also help you to understand the best days to “try”.

Take the pressure off

The one piece of advice I wish I had listened to sooner than I did was to take the pressure off. I can admit that I got consumed with which days to try and what was going on with my body. Which means that you can easily forget that the whole “baby making” process should be a fun and loving time in a relationship. The more pressure you put on yourself, the less likely it will happen. Last year I had actually given up hope. Having had a lot fo tests done and investigations into why we were taking time to conceive and then unable to keep a pregnancy, I cam to the conclusion that we were done. But then our little miracle happened. Enjoy the process, be excited and happy about the next chapter, but don’t put too much pressure on yourself to make it happen. 

In 2019, it happened to be the year that I began to take better care of myself. I reduced the amount of alcohol I drank in the week, I exercise more regularly with regular walking and running, and I ate well. I didn’t sacrifice anything or deny myself anything that I wanted, but I also took better care of myself physically. Having said that I also worked hard on my mental health. I struggle with anxiety, and can often have days where I feel low and down. I really practiced self care and took time to understand what was causing my anxiety. I learned to be grateful for what I had, the life I was living and have a more positive outlook on life. It certainly didn’t happen over night, but I do think that working on myself was a factor into getting pregnant once again and getting to the stage beyond twelve weeks and beyond. 

I hope that some of these tips and advice helps you if you are hoping to conceive. Leave me your comments and tips on what worked for you. 

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11 Comments

  1. January 2, 2020 / 5:10 pm

    Such a great post full of advice. I suffered in getting pregnant having one loss after the other and got consumed in having a baby. My consultant told me to take a 3 month break both for my physical and mental self. Somehow I did this got my mind focused on other things and fell pregnant by accident as was not trying and held onto her. So do look after your mental self as I feel it does make a difference

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      January 3, 2020 / 8:25 am

      It really does. I am so sorry to hear that you have experienced loss. I know how tough it can be. It is so true what you say, and the mental aspect is one part of the process that doesn’t get enough attention. I had given up, and then it happened. There is some truth to it for sure. Thanks for commenting and sharing your experience. 🙂

  2. January 2, 2020 / 9:35 pm

    I have to admit I’m not a parent, but these are definitely some great tips for anyone trying to conceive.

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      January 3, 2020 / 8:27 am

      Thanks for taking the time to read the post. Really appreciate it 🙂

  3. January 2, 2020 / 10:01 pm

    These are definitely some helpful tips. I know when I put the pressure on, we really struggled but when I just decided to let nature take its course, it happened and I got pregnant with Olivia.

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      January 3, 2020 / 8:26 am

      The pressure can be a huge stumbling block for sure. You can do everything but if you are mentally not in the right place it can be just enough to halt the whole process. Thanks for commenting and sharing your experience. 🙂

  4. January 2, 2020 / 10:13 pm

    The older I get, the more I understand how lucky I was to get pregnant pretty much as soon as we started trying. My son is a blessing.
    I am sure that your tips will be helpful to the couples who are struggling, I wish them all luck with conceiving <3

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      January 3, 2020 / 8:28 am

      Thanks for sharing your experience. My son was a huge surprise to us early on in our relationship, so I also count him as my little miracle. Hopefully sharing the tips will help couples not to put so much pressure on themselves. Thanks for your comment 🙂

  5. January 3, 2020 / 9:31 pm

    I’m pleased to say that my baby making days are in the past, btu these are veyr useful advice for those who wish to embark on that wonderful journey. Mich x

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      January 6, 2020 / 11:52 am

      Aw thank you, i think after this pregnancy I won’t be in those days either 🙂

  6. January 6, 2020 / 11:00 am

    Some great tips there. I know a few people that have struggled and as soon as they stop trying and relax, it just seems to happen